He can masturbate and have success but if I touch him Why not work on getting to a place where sex is fun? Go to mobile site. If you die tomorrow, the company will simply replace you or your family can hire a housekeeper—make sure your spouse will miss you. The grit from your teeth will not serve as a good lubricant. See a theme here? Men have a tough time learning how to touch a woman.
Iva This Side of Perfect on June 8, at Much better, therefore, to subtly and even subconsciously extinguish her sexuality. It's tough to surrender to the moment if you're gauging your partner and your partner is gauging you. Also tell her that if she wants this marriage to work that she needs to have GOOD sex with you on a regular basis and that you both need to go to counseling. That experience changed me and I am worried that even if you move on, the feelings of inadequacy and rejection will follow you to your next relationship.
I got help with my depression and it was NOT easy. Don't jump to the conclusion that there's some deeper, underlying problem. First, you're denying yourself pleasure -- that's a bad habit. Plus the fact that she has had kids and that can really change a woman's body. She may be someone who is not comfortable with sex in general, maybe she was brought up thinking it's 'bad' or 'dirty'.
And it really is possible—I changed, and so many women on this blog have, too! Anonymous on July 10, at 9: But, I can say that that now versus when I wrote my original post above, I live with the sense that we're succeeding as a couple. We seem better equipped to understand that each of our respective traumas can get triggered by each other and can communicate that experience rather than making our experience about the other doing something to harm. The good news is, the opposite is usually true; get excited and you're bound to attract excitement. I know you're trying to be helpful but I'll bet your partner will say that whatever they do it's not enough.