What should I do? Their wives know, and they make it work. Their spouse entered the marriage with a LGBT orientation from the start. The straight spouse understandably becomes angry at the gay spouse for not being able or willing to go back into the closet. Yes it is totally possible and many couples do it. When I read some of the stories of these women in the book, I was faced with the reality of what I am doing to my own wife.
Did he accidentally say something in his sleep? At first, you ask him gently, "Honey, is everything okay? Funny--we usually end up saying that we don't really know the men we married. They have no empathy for men who are going through the "struggle.
You don't forgive someone's behaviors for that person's benefit; you do it for your own peace of mind so that you can drop that burden and move on to other things. For a self-professed "expert" and counselor to suggest that your relationship is in trouble because of how the other person misrepresents himself, exaggerates, lies, and refuses to take responsibility for any of it, while simultaneously disclaiming her own Cohen writing under the pseudonym Chester Allan Dale. In all four of my reviews of her materials, I have tried to present how a closeted homosexual man might experience her attempts to be "helpful" and "supportive" and how her style of encouraging "honesty" is likely to be met. Straight people might think she should divorce you and get on with her heterosexual life. Without getting into too much personal detail, this is a reality which we have faced together for many years.